Today we set goals. Some of our goals were things we do every day and others were a special effort. It was an interesting paradigm shift for me to think in terms of a goal we could set for 1 day. There was a recent church talk about someone asking their son to be kind to his sister for 1 day. Then after accomplishing that for 1 day, could he keep doing that and even add more goals.
In our baby step world I hope to just introduce the children to the idea of deliberate action and celebrating the exercise of self control.
lP had a goal to not break any of M's things today. My goal was to not hit any of my children today. I don't generally hit them at all but I do often feel mad at them and I did swat lP the other day after she hit B. Great.... So I made that my goal.
When the kids were yelling in the back seat I pulled over and told them I was going to play a game on my phone rather than let myself get really mad at them. They were annoyed and I threatened to play 2 games.
Throughout the day we would check on each other "Do you remember your goal?" as keeping it in mind is really important for achieving a goal, especially when it is a goal of something you don't want to commit.
I am not perfect And I can make goals to be better and achieve a better relationship with myself and others.