Find the courage to ask questions and express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement you can transform your life.
We believe assumptions are the truth. Then we gossip about our assumption, creating hell. Ask for clarification. Don't try to make someone else wrong.
The mitote/chaos inside us makes us misunderstand and misinterpret everything. We make assumptions and then create a fantasy around our assumptions.
Don't assume people know what you want or need. (p.66)
Don't assume people define relationships or events (or responsibilities) the same as you.
We make assumptions to try and make sense of the world to make ourselves feel safe, to replace the need to communicate.
Have the courage to ask. (p.68)
Don't make assumptions about your abilities. Stop lying about what you truly want. (p. 69)
We get into relationships and ignore traits we don't want to see. Your love can't change anyone. People change themselves. When something changes you get hurt and suddenly see what you ignored justifying your pain. You blame them for your choices.
Love is accepting. Choose to live with someone who is already what you want. If you want to change someone, you don't love them. And if someone wants to change you, they don't love you. Communicate fearlesly. Maybe you loose someone because you aren't a good fit. Better to know.
Stop making assumptions. Ask questions. If you don't understand, Ask. Find your voice to ask for what you want. You have a right to ask and answer yes or no.
Stop assuming --> Make your word impeccable.
Instead of making assumptions, find out what you want and what they want.
Use the word for creation, giving, sharing and loving.
1 comment:
Don’t try to make someone else wrong. That is so true. It creates hell.
I do think creation must match existing reality. Sometimes people call it creativity when really its just breaking something.
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