lP didn't want to have anything to do with it.
This year I'm really interested in gifts that are consumable and useful. My "gift" to P is a trackball he needs for his computer. Woah! A gift can't be something you were going to buy anyway! We're at that place in life where we can afford to buy what we need, and if we don't need it, why the heck would we want it? The predominant philosophy seems to be to spend money you don't have on things you don't need. Brilliant! Not that gifts aren't nice, and please send them, anyone who was going to. But it's nice to be at a place in my marriage where I can be grateful for P replacing the kitchen faucet on Dec 7, and not cry on Christmas day if there's nothing under the tree (like I did 10 years ago). I'm finally grown up enough to appreciate his satisfaction in doing something necessary, and his dislike of doing things because society tells him to.
So this year I'm mostly interested in giving people delicious food.
Also, I recently learned how much amazingly good food can come from $12 of pork and bbq sauce in my crock pot. It's probably not a good thing either. But it is so good and so easy.