Tuesday, October 28, 2014
Deep discussions with little girls
On the day this all came to head, we talked about trust. When you can trust something, it means you can expect that thing to do the same thing all the time, like the sun rising in the east. And I told her it was like me staying up late might make me grumpy. Adults and children can act in a way that you can't trust them. But that some people lie a lot, and you can sort of trust them to keep lying. It doesn't mean you should let them take care of your children. But you can expect that behavior to happen again, and not be surprised by it. M has amazing days, and she has days that she act like she's a 7 year old. I explained that she's a child and that when I say "I can't trust you" it means I can't expect consistent behavior from her. I can't expect her to be perfect every day, and that's ok.
I think I'll mark this day on my calendar and review this annually. It's a pretty important message.
Posted by Lucky Day at 2:17 PM