utah fun

my mother got a diagnosis in June so we came to Utah to say goodbye and help care for her.  P was able to take off 2 3 weeks of sick leave.  We drove out as fast as possible, arriving in 42 hours.  That included stopping to have the alternator replaced by a very sweet member in a gold buick.

During the first two weeks I took turns staying the night with my mom, alternating with my oldest sister M.  i spent a lot of time taking pictures of my moms paintings and photographs I hadnt seen before.

 Last week I took turns with N and T.  My brother D is watching mom tonight and S will arrive tomorrow to watch her.  She declined suddenly Friday when she fell exiting the bathroom at midnight and then possibly a seizure in the morning.  N who is a psychiatrist came to take over at 1pm.  She got mom to take an anxiety medicine that helped her need less pain medicine.  She also got   an oxygen concentrator and comode set up.

P has taken the children to amazing playgrounds and mountain hikes to see waterfalls.  It has been wonderful to do so many things outside.

Covid 19  is out of control in Florida so it has been nice to be away from that. We are staying at N’s house as she has so graciously let us crash at her home before for 4+ weeks!

grown up behavior

I planted a nectarine seed in a bin on the back porch several years ago.  It grew into a 4 foot plant and this year it had 3 fruit that were eaten before they were ripe by someone or something. 

I got a plot in the community garden in October and moved the tree there in March.  The garden president asked me to remove the tree and I didn't want to because it isn't against the rules. 

Today she called again during dinner and I didn't want to talk to her because it was dinner and I suspected she wanted me to remove the tree.  

I talked to P about how I felt about that and he offered to role play the conversation and provided really good lines like "OK, when would you like me to have it removed?"  I made petulant faces and he kindly didn't make fun of me for it. 

I called the garden president and politely inquired what I could do for her.  She asked me to remove the tree and I said "OK, when would you like me to have it removed?"

I'm so glad that I am married to an adult.  He's a very good influence on me.

facebook fast

I gotta take a break from FB.  I'm going on a fast.  I'm grateful for the prophet Russel M. Nelson and the counsel to fast from social media.  It's so addictive and toxic. 

I'm pretty good about self discipline once I recognize a problem.  I've been off of eating sugar for about 5 years now.  I haven't read People magazine for about 15 years.  I definitely need to step away from Facebook.  Nothing I have to say is going to convince anyone or change minds.  It only gets me upset and I don't need that.  My family doesn't need that.