Frozen 2

We do a lot to raise the children with realistic expectations and frugal habits.  We rarely go to see a movie in the theaters.  M has seen Frozen and Hidden Figures, and that LDS movie I can't remember.  But those were very specific expenditures, rather than a habit of consumption.  G has seen more movies with his school, the youth, and the last 2 Avengers movies.  lP, B and L haven't seen anything in a theater unless it was at a theme park with dad during their free pass years so I'm not certain.

We were the second hold for a copy of Frozen 2 at the library and we got to watch it yesterday.  It was so nice to enjoy it and they appreciated finally finding out what happens.  Being homeschooled makes it easier to be raised without keeping up with all they're missing out on. 

Eating at home and using the library saves us so much money and allows us to do things like road trips, piano lessons, and pay the mortgage : )

I'm so grateful that P and I both enjoy saving money so much.  He probably likes saving it more than I do, really, but it's not something we disagree about.

We will replace the van soon and I am so interested in a fuel efficient van like the transit connect.  But I recognize it may not happen.  That's OK.

the Three Peas walk the dog

M and G were hired to take care of the dog.  G had school, and M was worried there wasn't time before her drop off.  So we took her to school then came back to take care of Luke.  lP held the leash the whole way around the block.  B and L raced along, and enjoyed surprising fish in each of the storm drain sewers.  It was raining slightly but not too bad.

big fight

I take G to school and then return about 8 to start the day with the rest of the family.  P is sometimes awake and at work when I come home.  I really like to let him sleep and work, so I don't like to bother him.  He wants us to do scriptures and prayer (bless him) before breakfast.  And the kids all want different things to eat.

So today I was almost done making sausage biscuits ( fancy!) when P came out and asked if we could do scriptures and prayer now.  I paused dramatically and asked if I could have 2 more minutes to finish what I was doing.  He agreed I should finish and re-articulated his preference for doing scriptures and prayer first.

So we gathered and I told P that when he comes out and wants me to immediately change tasks, I feel stressed.  I don't expect him to immediately come away from work.  And he re-articulated that we should do scriptures and prayer before starting breakfast.

After scriptures and prayer I told the kids they had just seen their parents have a big fight, all spoken with respect and calm voices.  It is important for them to know that fighting can be respectful, that you can disagree and feel frustrated, and still act with love.

I told the kids that if they want breakfast, they should ask if we can do scriptures and prayer.  I know that P wants to do scriptures and prayer first so it doesn't get forgotten.  He wants me to interrupt his sleep and work for this priority.

I am grateful for his thoughtful way of living and prioritizing the gospel.  I'm grateful that we don't fight dirty but can talk about things.

late to church

P is serving in the bishopric so he's always at church early on Sunday.  This week I couldn't find my keys so he had to come home and give me a key : (  So we were very late, and M was giving a talk.  We had the sacrament in the hall and then went in, but there was no place to sit, so we went back out in the hall.  That's life.

M planned to sign her talk so she wouldn't have to speak : )  She had already done this the previous week in the deaf meeting.  So I knew it would be amazing and had already seen it.  She signs very articulately from the stand.

Love Language

Did I already blog about learning my love language?  I didn't previously know what it was consciously because most other love languages I heard about were definitely not mine, so I was not resonating with that idea.  But then I did learn that my love language is time and trust.  Give me that and I'm hooked.  Talking with P I learned that his love language is fixing things.  So it's not nagging to give him opportunities to fix things.  Yay!

Love languages are a lot like modes of communication, or even technology.  What is the best way to contact you?  Email, phone, facebook, text?  What is the best way to make you feel love?  Gifts, service, affection?  For me it is time.  Go on a walk with me.  And trust, confide in me.   And that friends is also good to know because I need to be careful of who I let influence me.  Just because I see a lot of someone in Facebook, doesn't mean I should let their voice be louder than other voices in my life.

Anyway, this has been a year of self discovery and growth.  Knowledge is awesome.